A widow should savor blessings

Dear Abby:

I just read your answer to Reno a widow, 44, with two nice children, a lovely home, no debts and a steady income, who wonders where all the decent men are. (All she meets are men who want to rush her into bed. You assured her there were still plenty of decent men out there somewhere.)

Nowhere did you mention how lucky she was to have had one decent man, two nice children, a lovely home, no debts and a steady income (without working, probably).

I'm 45, have never had a husband, will never have children, and have supported myself for 25 years. I'm struggling to stay out of debt,

and pray that my income will continue to be steady.

I can't find a decent man. Reno has already had one. That's better than some of us. Plus she's had all those nice fringes. Try it without a husband. No lovely home, no kids, and everyone thinks you're a lesbian because you've never married. Believe me, Abby, the widows and divorcees fare better.

R

Dear J.:

Dear Abby

Thanks. I never realized how lucky that 44-year-old widow was until you pointed it out. That reminds me of the man who complained because he had no shoes then he met a man J. in Chicago who had no feet.